For Guys

*This is a stock photo*

*This is a stock photo*

So you think she might be pregnant . . .

 Here’s some quick advice that may help right now:

Listen.  The situation involves more than just you.  There are now three lives to think about.

Stay Calm.  She needs your support now more than ever.  She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you too.

Talk about it — not only with each other, but prepare to talk with your parents and others close to the situation.  Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.

Gather all the facts.  Get all the information and seek wise advice so you can make the best decision for each of you.

Express yourself honestly.  Its normal to have feelings of anger, frustration, and fear.  But make sure she knows she’s not alone.

But most of all . . .

Don’t bail.  The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

Don’t pressure her.  Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation.  You will do well to work together as a team.

Don’t forget that you have a very active role in this situation.  Listen to input as well as give your thoughts.

We have male mentors available to talk with you who can understand your situation from a man’s point of view.  Request an appointment online.  (You can come together or by yourself.)  You can also request an appointment by phone by calling (830) 303-2151 and asking to speak to a male mentor.  We’re here to help you too.